Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Being present

A quote simply jumped out at me as I was surfing the internet wondering what to blog about.

Many times we're greeted with "how are you?" And we respond with "I'm fine. Thank you. And how are you?"  The other person says: "I'm fine thank you."

End of conversation.

And then there's another scenario which goes like this:

"Hello! How are you," says Madame X to Madame Y
Madame Y: "I'm fine thank you."
Madame X:  Where do you come from? My family is from Kona. They're a big family there. We all descended from King Kamehameha. And we have these huge acreage across the ocean. We have a multi-million trust fund set up. And I know all about law and psychology. Afterall I worked with lawyers and psychologists all my life. And I've been around the world 10 times. And.......etc. an ad infinitum abuse of bragging rights.

Finally, after listening to a 10 minute monologue Madame X simply  gives up, makes a lame excuse and walks away.

End of  conversation. End of a chance to really engage with another spirit in a meaningful way.

You get my point.

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  1. Yes indeed. Been there, done that, had those conversations [both kinds.] The art of listening has to be learned. Many haven't learned it. Thanks for the reminder.

    1. Have had those conversations too Mary. And I still have to master the art of listening. Thank you for reading and commenting. Much appreciated!

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    1. Right Mitch! Thanks for taking time to read and comment. You encourage me!